Managing Your Attitudes


Managing Your Attitudes. We’ve all heard about the importance of our attitudes. Usually the directive goes like this; “XXXXXXXXXX, you need to improve your attitude!” 

Fortunately, there is a lot more to attitudes than just the oft-spoken refrain to improve ours. Successful people eventually learn how to manage their attitudes.  

Attitudes are contagious. You know that if you spend a lot of time with negative people, you begin to see what’s wrong with everything and everyone. Hang around a lot with depressed people, and you become depressed. On the other hand, if you are with energetic and optimistic people, it rubs off on you as well.  

While it is true that the attitudes of others rub off on you, the opposite is also true and far more important: Our attitudes can rub off on others. Your attitude, then, becomes one of the key pieces of your ability to influence others. 

Here’s one of the more powerful bits of wisdom I have ever come across:   

You can choose your attitudes. You can choose to be happy; you can choose to be sad, you can choose to be confident, and you can choose to be cautious.  

Don’t believe it? Take this little test. Tomorrow, as you are eating breakfast, tell yourself these things over and over. “It’s going to be a rotten day. Everybody’s afraid to buy. Most people probably won’t even see me. I’ll probably be laid off soon anyway.”  

Now, having repeated that litany of dreariness to yourself, pay attention to what kind of attitude you exhibit during the course of the day. You are probably not going to be effervescent and overwhelmingly positive. Instead, you’ll be depressed and discouraged, and you’ll spread it to the people around you like the plague.

You could, on the other hand, dramatically change your attitude for the day if you were to get up in the morning and repeat this kind of dialogue with yourself: “It’s going to be a good day.  I can’t wait to see what good things are going to happen. I know there’s some good things I can do for my customers. I’m going to make a difference in their businesses and their lives.”  The result of that kind of train of thought is confidence and positive energy. And you’ll spread that, also.

Here’s the point.  

You can choose an attitude of confidence and optimism. By so doing, you influence those around you, and you do your small part to contribute to the betterment of those in your sphere of influence. Of course, you are not single-handedly going to change world attitudes. But you can positively influence those with whom you come into contact. 

You are a professional. You contact more individuals in the course of the day than most people do. Your customers, prospects, colleagues; your friends and family; the people you work with and supervise; even your managers – all of them can be influenced via your attitude. Because of your position of great potential influence, you have a greater responsibility to be proactive, and to lead others.

It’s time for you to step up to the plate and to become a positive leader for those around you.

Here are a couple guidelines to help you …

1.  Start with yourself. Make sure you are nurturing your own personal attitude. Now is the time to revisit and revitalise your faith in God. Hang around positive people. Make a point to read uplifting books and articles. Get some additional training, expose yourself to positive audiotapes. Create a set of strong affirmations and read them to yourself at the start of every day.

2.  Assume that you are the leader for which people around you are looking. Be sensitive to opportunities that come up in the course of the day to influence the attitudes of those around you. If you are a manager, do something positive for your people. Invest in them someway. Enlist their input and involvement in some new initiative. Don’t just talk the talk, show your attitude by your actions. Walk the walk.

You can choose to be part of the problem, or part of the solution. You can choose to be influenced by the negativity around you. You can reflect that cautiousness and lack of confidence. You can contribute to that downward spiral in attitude. In that case, you have chosen to be part of the problem. On the other hand, you can choose to be part of the solution. 

The choice is yours.