Moving Beyond Manipulation to Thrive, Excel and Succeed with Ease. For Sensitive and Neurodiverse Ambitious Leaders.
I believe there’s something we hold shame around that we need to speak up more about; not repress, avoid, deny it happens or pretend it didn’t happen to you because doing that builds regret, resentment and rejections of future prospects, opportunity, achievements and prosperity.
Let’s talk about manipulation, an Epidemic in neuro diverse leaders due our high levels of empathy, sensitivity, generosity and vulnerability.
I’ll share the power of awareness, perception and choice and how you can move beyond manipulation, think differently and choose differently the outcomes that are going to be generative for you as a leader both personally and professionally. I have been the victim of multiple manipulations through professional and personal settings and it doesn’t matter to what level of manipulation occurs it is still manipulation and it’s not okay. Gaslighting, coercion, sexual abuse, narcissism all from: A Business Partner, A Manager, A Photographer, Coach and Company Telephone Provider.
How the heck do you recognise manipulation when you’ve never been taught to?
By being willing to Learn from what’s being shown to us. What if you don’t know what the red flags to be aware of are until you’re in it and it’s too late? You doubt yourself, you deny your own awareness of what’s truly going on here, because you are afraid and you don’t feel safe.
You always know something is not true when it starts to feel heavy, contractive and painful. Due to your high levels of empathy, sensitivity and ability to always see the best in people it can often cloud yourself from seeing someone’s true motives and hidden agendas because you judge them for good.
End judgement assessments. Judgement is having a Rightness or Wrongness. Use your Perception as it goes beyond judgement.
Being a female Neurodiverse leader who has ADHD, Autism, Dyslexia, with high functioning levels of sensitivity. I’ve always felt this was a curse until I learnt how to shift from it disabling me to enabling me to acknowledge my gift. Before, I always attracted the users, abusers and manipulators, because I’d always see and perceive what was truly going on under the surface for that person, so I wanted to heal them, save them, take them out of their misery but did it at the sacrifice of me.
This was my norm. I had the Martyr / Healer Wound – like many of us have but you don’t know it until you work on yourself deeper. I used my own Theta Healing tools to heal, know oneself better and see the Higher Perspective of everything.
Would you like to end sacrificing yourself?
Years later after healing from abuse, manipulation, gaslighting and learning what red flags are, what boundaries I needed to enforce and that there are many people who abuse the vulnerability of sensitives. Yes it’s a sad fact. I saw it.
You see people don’t do it personally, unfortunately you’re just the catch, they want something, but what if you didn’t have to be the bate anymore and you didn’t have to learn the hard way. What if you ‘uncreate the self sabotage’ within and could empower yourself into strengthening your Knowing, Awareness and Perceiving the Motives of what a situation is going to create for you.
You see, we don’t have to learn the hard way, we don’t have to go through abuse, manipulation, gaslighting and suffering to learn lessons in life to grow and thrive, we can do it without challenge and sacrifice. When we have tools for self awareness we end the sabotage and can prevent harm.
I have learnt great virtues like resilience, the power of perception, awareness, intuition, trust, confidence and always staying aware of hidden agendas. I wish for more Neurodiverse people to know this and implement this.
Having someone to support, mentor, coach you on your journey as a leader whether you work for yourself or your working for a company, can save years, immense energy, health havoc and financial loss, because you haven’t had to experience the trauma of manipulation and the detrimental consequences that get created as a result. Grief, debt, burnout, anxiety, depression, sickness, job loss, divorce, redundancy and making decisions that don’t align with you.
Manipulation happens more than we realise, it’s a subtle energy but the consequences can be debilitating. Together with more Awareness we can use our first language; Energy, have more empowered people, corporate cultures and communities that come together to make our world better.
This article is written from my heart to encourage you not to do what I did to continue to keep choosing to learn my lessons the hard way, but instead…
- Be Aware to Perceive what will get created if you with what choices you make.
- Choose differently with your power of perception. This prevents someone from controlling you.
- Be the change so things can be different for you for now and the future.
The more you are Self-aware, by asking questions for example; If I choose this what would it create for me?
Rather than having to choose and then suffer the consequences later from the trauma and drama. A question empowers. Let’s all live and lead from more Perception, Awareness and Question. People will always manipulate, but you don’t have to go down that path with them.
Using awareness is your greatest asset and preventative to destructive decisions, failure and financial loss. So today what if choosing more awareness and practicing presence in every moment could be the most simple and effective strategy to thriving, succeeding and excelling with ease? How many years of self sabotage will it save you?
Those years can be spent not fixing problems but having fulfilling leadership, living your life and being Happy. With awareness, we can be more constructive, expansive and productive in our everyday personal and professional endeavours.
Let’s choose Manipulation No More and Accelerate your Leadership to the next level!
